Sit at Café Doppio running a Mac PowerBook on WiFi and watch for all the signs of approval–that approving glance, the Nod. But run Windows on your Dell and the only look you’ll get is the “I feel your pain brother”.

Kathy Sierra points out: “To recognize and appreciate the fact that someone other than you gets it” is a good thing. Bopping along to your Ipod nano doesn’t normally earn you the Nod these days, every Tom, Ahmed and LiYing has one, but stick in a set of B&O headphones and watch the other B&O fans greet you like a long lost relative.

The question is whether the cred is being given to the product or the user? I think there is a bit of both, but the latter has more pull. So all you product and service companies out there claiming to be innovators, creative, end-to-end and whatever other crap - listen up!….It’s NOT always about having a remarkable product, try helping your end users be remarkable.

The Nod means we recognise an attribute of the person who has that-thing-we-also-have… an attribute we value. Wear run of the mill adidas and you’re another one in the crowd, slap on a pair of adidas Y3’s and you’re inherently assumed to possess intelligence, courage, independence, global foresight, cutting edginess, sexiness, experience, expertise. (Sound like me Jade?)

How do products or services get the Nod?

The most important point, I think is to ensure there are ways for others to spot another person who has it. Here we go with the whole branding debate again (Idlethoughts and Monkeyboy on brandkudos sometime back….)

We are all defined in some ways by the things we choose, and having the right brands is a way to express who we are and what we dig to others. “Share” seems to be the new fad online and everywhere else so why not our own profiles in our real lives (although which is your real life now?), it might even help stop all the fighting.

I know some of you out there might now be thinking what a superficial and shallow dickhead I am, but if you can truly tell me you have no brand connections in some way, you are lying and ought to stop kidding yourself.

So…as a product or service provider, I must be asking, “What does being a user of my product say about the user?” If the answer is… nothing nod-worthy, I don’t necessarily have to change the product itself…(Chinese companies take notes here) We can refocus through community application or partnerships. Drinking Smirnoff at home on a Saturday night doesn’t say much for you, nor Smirnoff, but drink 42 Below in the lobby of JIA Hong Kong and you might have the socialites in HK following suit. This may have no significance to you, but what about 42 Below? Despite the fact that Smirnoff might be a superior grade of vodka, its of no consequence at that crucial point of brand affiliation.

Companies could try projecting the values of the company (no 12 year olds manufacturing it please!), changing the user-experience (like a decent web experience), or even the look-and-feel of the marketing, actually how about some decent marketing to begin with! Not just sorry excuses for creative on a 10 second television ad.

Have you given the Nod or the wink of approval lately?